When Life Gets You Down


Life can give you two things: It can give you nice, firm, ripe lemons or it can throw old, rotten, stinky lemons directly in your face while your family and friends and role models are standing around, pointing, and laughing. And more often than not, it seems like the latter situation is the more prevalent case. At least that’s how we perceive the situation to be.

We are Our Worst Enemy

We are our own worst critic, our own worst enemy at times. We are the ones who often bring ourselves down when we think it is the world around us bringing us down. We are often the ones who bully ourselves because of failure. And if and when we do succeed, we often bully ourselves once again because nothing is ever good enough for us. We might not have reached our goals in the ways we wanted or in the time we wanted, or even if we did reach our goals to how we wanted, we give ourselves new goals that make us feel like we are not good enough for the accomplishments we just reached.

When life gets us down, it is often because we get ourselves down; we often bring the pain upon ourselves. We often let things get to us and we encourage ourselves to get down, trampled on, and spit on, all because we do it to ourselves.

Continue the Pain

When life gets us down, we continue the pain. We wallow in our self-pity and focus on the negatives of the situation rather than viewing the struggle as an opportunity for us to rise, to grow, and to become better than the person we were before.

When life gets us down, we often view it as the worst thing that has happen to us. Trust me, this is how I have often viewed my own difficulties. I would let them get the best of me, allowing them to take away all of my control and power. I allowed myself to get broken and beaten down, and then when I fell to the ground, I was the one who would beat me down even farther.

Learn the Beautiful Lessons

But through all of the struggles and the difficulties I have been through (which is an extensive list, as someone diagnosed with chronic major depression and bipolar disorder), I have learned some beautiful lessons, some wonderful truths.

  • I am the only one who can make my situation better.
  • I am the only one who can make myself better.
  • I am the only one who can improve myself.
  • I am the only one who can save me.

When life gets me down and when I get myself down, I am the only who can pick me back up, brush myself back off, and keep going, keep walking down the path I was on. This was a hard lesson to learn, but let me tell you, it has been one of the best. It’s been one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Why? Because I found myself.

Take Control

When life got me down, I lost myself, but when I stopped, breathed, and accepted the place I was in, I walked outside of myself to clear my head and regained my feet, thus regaining my own control. I learned that I could no longer blame others, or the world, for the position I was in. I learned that I could not fully blame myself either because blaming anyone, including myself, would not do anyone any good. So I just accepted the fact that the pain happened for a reason I yet do not know, but that God put me in the place I was for a reason, and that reason was to help me grow.

My eyes, my heart, and my mind were opened to my own understanding of who I was and the reality of life, that sometimes it sucks but that I am stronger than any difficulty that might be thrown before me.


When life gets you down, I think the first step is to accept it. It’s important to accept how much something has hurt you, how much something has affected you, and how you are feeling and reacting to a situation. Your feelings, no matter what they may be, are important because they are who you are and they are an extension of who you are. Rather than trying to change your feelings and emotions, accept them. Accept the situation, grieve for a moment if you have to, and then pick yourself up.

One Day at a Time

Picking yourself up can be hard. But take it one day, one moment, one breath at a time. It’s okay if you are hurt by something; just always remember you are stronger than any pain that life hands to you. When you realize and understand that you are stronger than the pain, you can start to pick yourself up. God never gives you anything more than you can handle. Your pain is momentary. It is not going to last forever; you are going to be okay. When you start to pick yourself up, you can see the light at the end of the tunnel grow brighter and brighter with every step.

When life gets you down, laugh it off. Shrug it off. React to it. Feel what you need to feel and let your emotions out if you have to.

When life gets you down, be happy. Why would you be happy? Because when life gets you down, you have been given an opportunity to find yourself and rediscover who you are. You are given the opportunity to cherish your strength, your power, your ability, and your control over yourself. You are given the opportunity to grow and to rise above any adversity that tries to act as a barrier and an obstacle before you.

When life gets you down, know that you are going to get through it.

When life gets you down, embrace it.

When life gets you down, take life by the horns and show it who’s boss.

You are the boss of your life.

When life gets you down, rise.

About the author

Kevin Martin

Kevin Martin

Kevin is a writer by profession and loves to write on cultures, food, nature & wild spaces and urban places.